But if you don`t take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the midst of hell is the gift of this agreement. Ruiz explains that this agreement is certainly the most important, but that the most difficult thing is to respect it. [7] For this agreement, Ruiz first analyzes the word “irreprocible.” The perfectly irreproachable word comes from the Latin word peccatus, which means “sin,” and the term “im” at the beginning of blame is the Latin prefix meaning “without.” Ruiz describes a sin as all that goes against himself, and therefore to be impeccable with language is to assume the responsibility of one and without judgment against oneself and against the other. [8] This agreement focuses primarily on the importance of speaking with integrity and carefully choosing the words before saying it out loud. [9] The second agreement invites us to recognize that we are all working from the point of view of our own unique experience. My perspective is different from your point of view, and while we share a multitude of commonalities and connections, your actions, thoughts and words are not for me. Whatever a friend posts on IG, tells me over coffee or thinks about how I dress, for example, it`s not about me. (Emphasize, because it`s still pretty hard for me to see, and my guess is that I`m not alone.) When I take something that a friend does personally, I focus, I used myself, I used limited information to reach conclusions, and I ignore their experience and perspective. Besides, I tell myself lies. If you hold this agreement, you can travel the world with your heart and no one can hurt you. They can say “I love you” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask what you need.

The fourth agreement allows readers to have a better understanding of the progress made in achieving their goals in life. This agreement involves the integration of the first three agreements into daily life and the exploitation of its own potential. [8] It is a matter of doing the best that can be managed individually, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you judge yourself and do your best at all times, you will be able to avoid remorse. [10] By integrating the first three chords and doing the best in all facets of life, the individual will be able to lead a life without grief or self-awareness. [10] Don`t take anything in person.