Points to Be Aware Of: This is good advice to help you become less responsive, defensive and retaliatory, but keep it in balance. While everyone has their own prejudices and there is no real objectivity, you can, by never taking anything personally, your ability to see your own negative patterns and biased ideas, really limit and work towards the development of healthier models and lucid thoughts. As Scott Peck says in The Road Less Traveled: “The problem of distinguishing between who we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems of human existence.” “The Four Accords” not only gave me the four chords by which I made small positive changes in my life, but the book also helped me understand the process of “domestication” and how this “Domest” shaped my belief systems. The fourth agreement allows readers to have a better understanding of the progress made in achieving their goals in life. This agreement involves the integration of the first three agreements into daily life and the exploitation of its own potential. [8] It is a matter of doing the best that can be managed individually, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you judge yourself and do your best at all times, you will be able to avoid remorse. [10] By integrating the first three chords and doing the best in all facets of life, the individual will be able to lead a life without grief or self-awareness. [10] In Part 2 of this two-part video, we learn something about the book of the law that governs our minds and the inner judge that makes us suffer because we never compare ourselves to our “image of perfection.” All our normal tendencies are lost in the domestication process, and we begin to look for what we have lost. We seek freedom because we are no longer free; we seek happiness because we are no longer happy; We seek beauty because we no longer believe that we are beautiful.

What we are looking for is our “me.” With practice, the four agreements help us restore our “authentic self” and this is the greatest gift we can make ourselves. What this means is that a lot of stress can be created assuming you know what others are thinking without checking with them. Understanding that other people might have different motivations to act, even drastic worldviews on your part, and really remembering to try to understand others and discuss these motivations before jumping to conclusions about their behavior, can help prevent interpersonal conflicts. One drawback of the book is that some of the chords are too extreme, and if you take them literally, they can cause additional problems in your life if taken without a proverbial grain of salt. However, with a little balance and a sense of openness, these chords can change and alleviate stress. Here is an explanation of the four agreements. In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn how the “domestication” of men and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward.